Saturday, January 20, 2018
I feel glad that the pressure to hope and to expect is no longer there
I feel glad and thankful for the wonderful people
not because they celebrate me,
but because they make time to remind me that they care
taking someone out for lunch on their birthday does not necessarily mean that they love you
but the fact that they make time for you should be sufficient as a reminder of your worth
a person should never feel like they are alone
i know that sometimes it is not an easy thing to get our head around
but to let it control how we see ourselves is an injustice to ourselves
to think that we do not deserve attention and care, is a pitiful thing we should never agree to settle on
there used to be people who went out of their way to celebrate me on this special day
they used to put in weeks of effort to delight me with surprises and gifts
and then they are gone. the effort is gone. the gesture is gone.
and i am not implying its wrong. It is totally normal and fine for them to stop
there are a million of reasons for them to stop
to be fair, i stop doing stuffs for them too.
and it's oky.
its okay..it is okay; They just forgotten
Sunday, October 15, 2017
or should we love ourselves and do things that make us grow?
What if bearing a responsibility is no longer making you happy?
should you back off? that would only make you a lousy person, no?
Should you just push yourself to the limit and strive to see how far you can soar?
and then they want you to decide what you want to do
how do you know that you're ready to decide, when you are not sure what you want ?
Sunday, June 11, 2017
and i already started to miss you
i came back
to a space that felt ridiculously empty
i sat and do my things
while longing for your presence
and i thought..
can i manage?
when you'll be gone and i'll be alone
will i be able to endure it?
the pain of missing you...
Friday, May 5, 2017
maybe i still do
there's this feeling of..excitement and disappointment when i see you
but I'm in no position to challenge the relationship you're currently having
and I have no intention to do so-
so I pray to Him
seeking His guidance to guard what's meant to be mine
and to protect me and guide this heart to want what's meant to be mine
one of my friends told me-
maybe he is the right person, but not yet
it all goes back to this, Robin
'Timing's a bitch'
Friday, April 28, 2017
Tuesday, April 25, 2017
one of the things i occassionally thought and wished is for someone to rely on
whenever i have mood swings, i know who to call
whenever i see a sweet advertisement, i know who to snapchat to
whenever i see a post that's so cute and funny, i know who to tag
whenever theres a new romantic movie in the cinema, i know who to have a movie date with
whenever I'm feeling like baking, i know who to invite
whenever I'm crying of stress, i know who to rant to
whenever i read a book so relatable, i know who to talk to
whenever i needed a company at 3am, i know who to facetime with
whenever I'm feeling angry, i know who i can be express to without getting judged
whenever I'm indecisive, i know who to seek advices from
whenever I'm hungry, iknow who'll be my driver for late night food hunting
you know...a person you can do everything with
a person you'll rely..100%
a person you can trust 100%
a person you are sure will never leave you ever
that's the risk
people change their minds
and loyalty is not as easy as ABC
thsi is what they say as fear of falling in love
I'm having that fear
I'm restraining myself frm giving my all to the community
but- the risk is when you give your all...because there will always be a smallest percentage of 2% that it will not be like what you hope for
sometiems reality is not as sweet as cotton candy
sometimes....what we want is not what actually is planned for
thats why when you're having that thought-
think of Allah
as He will surely surely surely 1000000% will never leave you.
Monday, February 20, 2017
you waved at me
from across the street
made me felt happy for days in a row
i see you today
studying at the table behind me
took me all of my courage
to say hi before i leave the place
we talked for 10 mins - or more
we talked about teeth
weird topic, but made me smile
i see you today
in the crowd
talking to everyone
too shy...i kept quiet and let time passed by
next thing i knew,
I'm taking my coat off the hook and head back
without saying hi to you
we eat together today
and cooked in your kitchen
yet i cant hold a conversation with you
whenever it was the only two of us
i find myself going away from the kitchen
and let myself be drowned by the crowd
in the dining room
and two times- people asked me to speak up
and questioned why am i so silent today
i guess it's getting on me
i hate myself
for not being able to go with so much confident
how can people be themseves with a crowd they are not familiar with?
i hate this
Monday, January 30, 2017
Sunday, January 29, 2017
used to be invisible, then needed, then invisible again
used to be vacant, then occupied, then vacant again
used to be plain, then wild, and back to plain
used to be independent, then dependent, and independent again
used to be always here, then gone, and back here
used to be free and easy, then busy, and free again
used to be practical, then complicated, and now practical
which version do you prefer?
you get to choose
and how you want to view
wtv you decide..
make sure you are happy
YOU are happy with it.
only then, you will BE happy.
Life will always give you options
right or left
yes or no
life even let you decide on how to see your life
life give you opportunity to see bad phase from a positive perspective
so why do you stay pessimistic about life?
Life had given you enough
you're not mking the full use of your chances to choose
hidup itu kan satu kitaran roda
sekejap kita kat atas
kemudian di bawah
sekejap kita bahagia
....or can it be
sekejap duka kemudian tawa
sekejap di bawah kemudian di atas
sekejap sepi....kemudian berteman
it's a wheel..why focus on half of the circle only?
it'll turn around...and it'll turn around
give it time and eveything will be okay insyaAllah
not to mention
it's He The Greater Planner that plans our life
how wrong can it be
Thursday, January 19, 2017
turned 21 and still, alone as ever
okay, not that I'm saying i hve nobody around me, but ..you know what i mean
was stuck watching a korean drama these pst few days
one thing i hate about kdrama is basically the fantasy that they paint in my head
and once i hve something in my head
theres no way of taking it off that place.
it'll linger on and on and on and on
leaving me wishing i have a love story like that too
idk why, but no.
nope nope. no
i just don't get that like anyone else
i just never..and maybe won't ??? experience that
maybe I'm just too shy
maybe I'm just not enough??
maybe I'm just too bossy
or maybe I'm just not the type that they want
this kind of maybe that kills me sometimes
makes my head feeling like exploding..
to reason with my head and to listen to my heart
what a job man..what a job
convincing yourself that you are okay and worth it and nothing is wrong with you
telling yourself over and over and over again tht it's just not time yet and one day it'll happen to you too
one day you'll get what youve been dreaming of
one day you'll no longer long for wtv is missing in yr life rn
yeah one day but not now
it's easy for someone to say what a petty thing to worry about
easy for someone to say oh they just never approach you because theyre scared theyre not up to your standard
who said i hv standards and who tell you what standards or wtv that i have??
who are you to determine that???
i never say anything
i never establish any measures
so don't speak like youknow how it feels
to again turn a year older without any single changes in that particular life
is it wrong..is this feeling of incomplete wrong?
i know i shd not look for someone to fill that emptiness
instead i have to turn to Him
but i just cant help it to feel this way
when everyone around me and
everyone i know
hVe someone to rely on already
it's tired yknw
being independent and
handling these issues in my head alone
it's tiring to debate with my emotions
when it gets lonely at night
and my phone's battery is dying
i cant turn on the music to accompany me to sleep
it's tiring..haih it really is
it's tiring to have crushes on every
single tall boys that i meet on the street
it's tiring to have the butterflies fluttering
everytime someone looks at me in the restaurant
it's tiring to constantly reminding myself
that theyre all not signs or wtv
it's tiring...to remember that those love stories in the movie??? they aint happening
esp to me.
i guess it's just not time- yet
okay enough of this bs
Monday, January 16, 2017
It sucks when you try to help someone but to no avail.
To convince that you do understand without telling them about your story. How can you tell them? You want to start fresh, you want to forget and forgive. You want to move on and open a new chapter.
However, even without me talking, stories are spread. Rumours are told, names are mentioned. Storied retold. Revamp, remade. It is never easy to start new. Even if you flew 10,576 km away...your story is a part of you. It will haunt you, people define you with the story they heard. In times like this, there's only one thing to help you walk with your chin held high up, with your pride whole and just, YOU do not define yourself with whatever is spread. YOU believe in the good values in you. YOU do better and YOU be you. It's YOU who matter. You don't need to convince other people whose fault it was, you do not owe an explanation of why you did what you did, because given time can be reversed, i know i have no regrets and i have nothing to change. Things happened because thats the best. at that time, it was all a blur and i regret. BUt now, giving it space and time, i can see it that it happened because...how else can it happen? it's fated, it's the best. hence, it's you, yourself. Not the other people, esp not those who does not even know the sufferings you went through. Because baby oh baby...they do not know the art of heartbreaks. They do not fathom the pain of peeling another layer of yourself to discover the gem inside. They do not understand your reasonings.....they do not know the circumstances that drove you to decide such things. Okay I'm getting a bit defensive here- lets get back to the main topic.
but...whats the main topic again? Gee qisya...you're losing it. I guess i jus felt like ranting after so long!
Friday, November 4, 2016
i remembered driving to the train station
with you on the passenger seat
while amnesia was playing on the radio
i remembered crying silently
while struggling to focus on the road
and weeping in silence
because i know you just won't care
i remembered praying so hard
so so soooo hard in my heart
that i had amnesia
so that i could forget everything that happened between us
all the fights and mean words and broken promises
i remembered praying to Him
that i forget everything
so that i can stop feeling the pain
and today I thanked Him for not answering that particular prayer
because now I understand the message
and the lesson of those tears behind the wheels
and dear friend,
how had you been doing ? :-)
Thursday, September 29, 2016
when you're alone
and you're alone with Him.
i learn that i like being alone sometimes
no, not alone
i like doing things on my own
i don't like people depending on me
but sometimes, it feels good to know someone rely on me.. hm
i like doing groceries on my own
i like shopping on my own
i like the idea of being completely free from
or any pressure
i like the freedom
I like being free
free from shackles of wrong obligations
free from making others happy
free from any prioritisation except mine and me only
free from ..judgements.
free from judgements
free from having to bear with others' opinion
free from worrying what others think of me
free from their talk and disagreements
i am free
and i like it
i like it here...to be free from everyone
I can do what i want, when i want to do it
and how i want it to be done
i can go shopping one whole stupid day without buying anything
and have nobody to lecture me on that
i can go groceries shopping slowly
taking my time to decide what to cook and what that is
without anyone judging my skill
i can go wander off without having to ensure
someone is okay walking that distance
i can ride on any bus i want to wherever i want
without having to make sure nobody feels financially burdened by what i want
i can do literally...whatever i want
and i really really am in love with this life rn.
thank you allah.
but, despite how i fancy my life right now,
please don't let me get too drowned in alone-ness
for too long
afraid that i lose confidence in people
afraid that i will refuse to get out of my world
to meet others
afraid i will get carried away..spending my years alone
i.....i hope for the best as You only You what is the best
and i know this is the best for now.
thank you allah.